Why women date other marrieds?
Talk about a loaded issue that no one wants to chat about, that’s it. Amusing thing, extramarital affairs have been going on ever since old ages. Affairs can be burdened with problems, cause misery, and other troubles. Plus you have to wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and frankness matter, money, age difference, spiritual education, guilt, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this post I will define an affair as a long term, maybe years long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other persons, date married.
Why do people have affairs? There are as many reasons as there are women seeking affairs. I think mainly though it is only the human nature, the need for love, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and appreciated. Here are a several reasons I have run across.
In nature we as human beings are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasurable and exciting, and sex makes us get away the world for a brief period of time. This euphoria exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Some people are able to turn the longing on and off, some are good at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the exhilaration of the hunt. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another being, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These desires and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos people has erected against extra-marital affairs. For many people the yearnings will beat their fears and make them risk the fury of not only their family, but the public too. So why, what is the mechanism?
Sex Addicts, possibly some of us are. Sex is extremely good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically obsessed sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not harm your spouse or anyone else? You will need to reduce the danger you are taking. If you have the feeling that a good affair is one that is advantageous to all, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the biggest group, gigantic in fact. There are many couples whose marriage is over, but they are comfortable in the manner they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Then there are the children to consider. Your money are so entangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be as a family besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that stop them completing the sex performance, at least not with their othere half. An extramarital affair from time to time solves the problem while keeping the marriage uharmed.
Ignoring, sorrowfully this is a frequent reason I fear. One or the other, as a rule the guy is sexually neglecting his lady for a tones of reasons. As a man I really am grateful to you guys neglecting your wives and making them accessible to us guys of romance, making them “lonely wives” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just omitted in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, maybe it is a shortage of love, could be compassion is not here, could be it is the intimacy, could be neglect. Could be we have just developed apart, our common concerns diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is opposite of what you want. Could be I simply do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The ultimate reason people give is, they look for the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to get away, for financial gain, for payback and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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